It will not get better on its own. If not, it may be time to loosen his dependence on you and protect yourself emotionally and physically. In some cases your husband may exhibit an extremely homophobic attitude. See if you notice a change in his behavior. I want to talk to him without a confrontation. If they think something is up, it probably is. I have been with him for five years and I have seen some signs, but I don't know where to begin.
Do this for one month for every year you have been together. They may mean something, they may not. Some couples work through it with kindness and compassion, others break things off in rage. I just know that I can't live this lie with him anymore. Visit the of these hilarious-if-satirical, scary-if-not reasons your husband might be gay. Tell him that you are not looking for an argument and you're not making false allegations against him.
Normal men have pretty high libidos. There may also be an issue if he is trying to hide how much he texts and talks on the phone with other guys. Let him know that his well-being is important to you, but you need to know if he's being honest with you. Confronting him in the wrong way will only put you on the negative side of his already pent-up emotions. Your husband might claim that the two of you are having sex too often or that you have become aggressive and oversexed. I'm angry because of the deceit, but if he can't tell me, then he is living in his own hell on the inside.
Regardless if he's cheating, gay or asexual it doesn't matter much - he's not attracted to you. For Now Sure, you're hurting inside, but you'll need a clear head if you're going to get the information you're looking for. We're not sure if this is a or not, but from the looks of things really. Of course some heterosexual men are just like this and there is no underlying reason. When was the last time you spilled your emotions to someone who accused you of something? Try to develop some sense of comfort before having the discussion.
He could be evading these things because he feels guilty about his secret. If you're asking, I will presume that he is not expressing sexual desire for you, and you suspect he is denying his sexuality. He's afraid that his world will crumble if he comes out. He might argue that a decline in sexual activity is par for course in marriage, but usually this decrease will happen early on rather than later if something is wrong. However, there may be some more extreme cases that tell you otherwise. He should not be showing more intimacy and interest to other men than he is to you. But, as odd as it seems, your husband could be doing this because he himself is secretly gay.
It is each partner's duty to make an effort to remain attractive. He will only tell you when he's ready. There are others, but these are the most common. Dear Gay Man: I'm a straight female living with a man who I think is in denial about being gay. Or he could be frustrated because he cannot express his true feelings like other homosexual men outside of marriage can. I believe in getting them with as little friction as possible.
In either scenario, he's probably terrified of his feelings and your anticipated reaction to them. How can I talk to him about this without making him feel like dirt? You also have to be careful to look for indications that are clearly homosexual, because some of these warnings are also suggestions that your spouse is cheating heterosexually. If your boyfriend is indeed gay or bisexual, you're absolutely right - he is probably in hell! You just want honesty in your relationship. Or he might have been trying to quell these emotions by marrying into a straight relationship. You can probably let this slide the first time, but if it becomes a habit you may find out your husband is having a little bit too much fun there. Sit him down and let him know how his behavior makes you feel.
All you can do is play nice and see if he is willing to be fair. Along with a decrease in intimacy, there are other acts of avoidance that may indicate your husband is gay. It can be a hard thing to learn that the man you have pledged your life to is actually gay, especially if the two of you have had kids together. If he doesn't respond, it's not you, and you've managed to bump up your attractiveness. Imagine suspecting your husband is cheating on you, only to find out that the person he has been seeking late night dalliances with is not a woman but actually a man. Your husband may insist that he does not know why there are gay pop-up ads, but in most cases these only appear because ad trackers in the web browser note that gay porn sites have been visited.